They're Going To The Ship!!!!!

Thank You New England for putting an end to Tebow Time, shutting up Ray Rice and the ugliest man in all the land.... Terrell Suggs.  Now, go get revenge for 2007.

Ante Up

I got a text this AM from my E-Hubs. Aside from the usual morning banter, he sends a link to an article on singleblackmale about how the key to a successful relationship is....cheating...aka recreational sex. Getthefukouttahere! Through multiple texts, we had a back and forth conversation about the article. At some point, he said, "We should do a man woman blog lol. Offering both sides of the story." So...here goes nothing. Normally, I think he and I are very much alike and ride the same wavelength. We couldn't be more different on this one. If more women think like me and men think like him, no wonder so many folks are single. Smh.

Kels POV:

Regarding the foolishness that is recreational sex....why be in a relationship at all? Why not just be single? Men are the only ones that come out on top. (Yeah, that pun definitely wasn't intended but it sure is on track.) Women are emotional creatures. Speaking generally (which we know I don't like to do) we want love and a family and all that other ish, with one person. No need to sleep around. When a woman gives herself to you, she gives you all of herself. Is it foolish of her to think that her "man" is doing the same? Why does he get to have the emotional attachment to one but sleep with others? Is cheating worth the risk of losing her? Hmm. At that, I decided that men are much bigger gamblers in matters of the heart/sex/lust/love whatever you want to call it. They will put an entire relationship at risk for the sake of a meaningless nut. (insert screwface here)

E-Hubs POV:

I’m not writing this exactly as how I would if I were writing it for a blog but in general, I think women are emotionally incapable of understanding the reasons behind why men cheat. To them it’s betrayal, immoral, disloyal, and hurtful; which are all true, but not the reason why most men cheat. It’s in a man’s basic carnal instinct to procreate and reproduce, that may sound like a cop out but that doesn’t make it any less true. Desiring to sleep with many women is as natural to most men as breathing and eating. You could even say marriage and monogamy is a relatively new phenomenon in human history, but that’s neither here nor there. This isn’t to say a man can’t be faithful, but being faithful is an active choice he has to make as it goes against what he is naturally designed to do.

P.D.Ugh!!

I'm not all that affectionate. This is something I know about myself. I appreciate hugs and kisses and all that other ish but I think it should be private. Not a secret but not on display either. I think it's safe to say that I'm not a fan of PDA, in the least bit.

The way I see it, there is no need to be tonguing your sig o down in the middle of a bar. None whatsoever. No need to be hugged up while walking trying to walk as one being when you're definitely two separate bodies. None whatsoever. Let's not play grab ass while we're out either. The fact that we're walking together, sitting across from one another enjoying a meal or next to one another at a show pretty much dictates that we're together. 

Don't get me wrong here, I'm not completely cold and devoid of emotion. I think a nice peck here or there, while out in public, when the mood strikes, is sweet. You can even reach for my hand from time to time without me freaking out.


I say all this to say, a little modesty goes a long way. Dry humping in the club, over dinner, in the bar is just so damn tacky and if I see one more couple doing so, I'm probably going to lose it.