Please Stow All Carry On Luggage

In the past week, I've had many a conversation, with different people, about excess baggage. My, oh my, the things that came out.

1) If you aren't finished with your last relationship (sig-o, fling, jump off, etc) don't go initiating something new. It's tacky and bad form. You may think that the new person has no clue but people can feel when they aren't connecting. You have to reconcile your past before you can move forward. Do that!

2) Don't believe everything they say. If you are out of a situation and moving on to something new, don't let your ex reel you back in with sweet talk. Anyone will promise you the world when they're trying to win you back. If they weren't about doing whatever they are promising to do now what makes you honestly believe that they'll really do it now.

3) You should always keep it real. In matters of the heart, you should always, keep it real. We're all just getting older and no one wants to play the games we played in our teenage years. Be honest and up front. Who really wants to fall for a lie? If you have a shady past, say so. It's better to know what you're getting into than to be confronted with it later on down the line. You should always keep it real, even when it doesn't make you look the best.

When someone decides to date you, that's who they want to be with. People don't really have the time or patience to deal with you and whomever you were with prior to them. Woosah, process what happened and get on with your life. You never know what you're missing in the moment by holding on to your past or letting your past keep a hold on you!