According To Kels

Thursday, May 19, 2011

What's In A Name?

I went to the grocery store a couple days ago to grab a few items. The clerk was very polite and efficient. We were casually chatting when I caught sight of her name tag. I know me and I know my face. I was entirely perplexed. For a moment, I felt like I was back in grade school seeing a "big word" for the first time: Day...day-ja...day-ja-nah....fuk it. I gave up. I simply asked her, "How do you prounounce your name?" She replied and my heart broke for her...Dejanaubra. (prounounce day-zha-naw-brah) WHY?!? Why did her mother do that to her?

I am a firm believer that there is a lot in a name! I have a running joke with my dad that the less conventional a guys name, the more likely he is to become an athlete, particulary, a football player. [e.g. LaDainian, Plaxico, Santonio, BenJarvus] My joke for females is the less conventional the name, the more likely she is to end up on a pole. (I know. I know. I'm an asshole with a sick sense of humor.)


Don't you wish some kids came out saying this.

I wonder what some folks think about when they name their children. They have to be thinking about what's cute and hip in the moment. I mean are they really thinking about a 50 yr old woman walking around telling people, "My name is Shanaynay, nice to meet you." (<--that's not cute ) Or, is that she was a young mother? Who knows?

It's easy to say what to NOT name your kids when I don't have any. I get that. At the same time, I don't know any parents that don't want their kids to do better. That starts with naming. What you name your children can hold them back. Employers don't just look at the job history and educational background on a resume. You are less likely to get calls back with what some people would call a ghetto name.

Just a little food for thought.

1 Comments:

Blogger Lamar said...

I really feel you on this one Kels. There is so much to a name; it can potentially have a super-positive, or super-negative, effect on the way in which the child views themselves, and ultimately impact their pathways throughout life.

Two stories: I know a young woman whose name was 'Patsy'...she researched her name and found out the Spanish word translated to something like 'idiot' in English, as soon as she got of age she changed the 's' in her name to a 'z'........

A young lady at my church had a baby. At the expense of stereotyping this young lady, I will say that she has some ghetto tendencies. A few months back she had a baby and name the baby 'Diamond'? Every time I hear that name I think of the movie 'Players Club'. Granted I like the movie and all, but I'm not trying to have my future daughter fill out a job application with the name Diamond!!! To me that is an example of a classic set up for your child to have a hard life and IMMEDIATELY be labeled....

LAC

June 8, 2011 at 11:19 PM  

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